The groomsmen’s tuxes were too long, too short, too tight. [They all deserved it, after kidnapping the groom and driving him around in the trunk of a car the night before!]
The hairdresser took twice as long as expected.
The green flowers were supposed to be white.
The white snow meant no-shows.
Grandparents showed up late, delaying the wedding and the bride has to reassure the groom that she didn’t change her mind…
And these moments happen, like when the groom put the ring on the wrong hand or there was an awkward silence because no one was sure what was supposed to happen next…
Every wedding was very different and yet the same–none of our ceremonies went perfectly, but we are all still married!
My wedding was a beautiful, traditional church wedding, and yes, all of those things and more could have made this bride sweat through her very white dress despite the cold January day. I was oblivious to a lot of the mishaps until after the vows were already shared, but it really wouldn’t have mattered. I loved this man, and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, and nothing was going to steal the joy I had on that day.
It’s been thirty-three and a half years, and a not-so-perfect ride, but we love each other more than ever and are looking forward to growing old together. Four children, three weddings and five grandchildren under our belt, and we are grateful.
Our two girls were married in 2008. Yep–the same year. We pulled it off, and not only survived, we loved every minute of it.
One, a gorgeous church wedding in January (she didn’t learn from my story).
…and the other in June–a destination wedding– in Hawaii.
And another June wedding in 2011, our son married this beauty in our church:
Church wedding or not, you can tell my favorite shots tend to be outside. So when/where is the perfect time/place for a wedding?
There is no such thing! Perfection is highly overrated. Some of the most beautiful, memorable moments are those very “imperfections”.
A sense of humor, however, is highly underrated. Joy in the moment doesn’t require perfection; choosing joy can change your perception. Can’t you see the joy on each face? We don’t marry perfect people or have perfect marriages–we choose to love one another despite our imperfections.
Just as there are no perfect weddings, there is no perfect marriage. When two imperfect people come together in marriage, our best efforts fall short if the goal isn’t something more than perfection.
So what should be the goal?
LOVE, of course.
Do you see? Our relationship with God is the foundation. We don’t have to ask, “Do you love me?” We KNOW He loves us, because He demonstrated it when He gave His life for ours. It’s His love that allows us to love. To have the kind of love that displays itself in relationship. Marriage is a committment to unconditional love that is demonstrated day in, day out. Good times and bad. For better or for worse. Do people even say that anymore? We sure did, and we meant it.
Is he perfect? nope 😉. Am I perfect? absolutely not. Are we perfect together? not a chance. But we do serve a perfect God that can make our imperfections into something beautiful–when we let Him.
I thank God every day for this man. He is a godly leader, partner, friend, lover. He’s an incredible father, and a doting “Pappy”.
Does he drive me crazy sometimes? you bet, but I wouldn’t trade the tough or the tender, the highs or the lows. They are all evidence to the fact that God can take these two imperfect people and give them a marriage that can bring Him more glory together than we ever could apart.
“For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife,
and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one flesh.” Mark 10:7-8