This Is Love: An Adoption Story

The adoption process is a whirlwind of emotions.  Allowing your heart to be vulnerable to the ups and downs of this journey takes more than just sacrifice–

it takes stamina.

Holding on to hope for what is best for a child takes

willpower and true grit.

Stubbornly fighting for the rights of a child demands

courage and unfaltering determination:

A sacrifice that is made willingly, because the reward is so much more than momentary.

It changes a life.

Illinois alone has over 16,000 children in the foster care system [ILDCFS].  My son and daughter-in-law are both school teachers, and two siblings in foster care were attending the school where she teaches.  Falling in love with this pair of siblings, and in hearing their story, the two of them were inspired to begin the process of becoming foster parents.  Choosing to do so opened the door of their hearts.  Their faith–and their commitment to this very big decision–brought them more than they could have ever hoped for.  These two young children that had inspired them soon became their foster children!  This young family began the year with a 19 month-old daughter.  In May they welcomed a newborn son, and by August they became a family of six when they welcomed a big sister and a big brother!

You’re kidding yourself if you think this was an easy task.  The logistics and the dynamics of this new family would change drastically, and the adjustment for these precious children into a new family required unconditional love and commitment–and a load of patience!  Their lives were a whirlwind of activities and adjustments–not just for the children they were bringing into their home, but for their little ones as well.

Being in foster care can mean years of being in and out of different homes, never knowing where you will be next.  Stability is key, but not always possible.  Our sweet littles had been moved around several times before coming to us.  These precious children needed love and a sense of security and a place to call home.

Only you can’t promise any of it. 

Fostering is a commitment to love and care for a child and absolutely must accompany a willingness to risk getting your heart broken.  You want to tell them that they can stay forever, only you can’t.  Only the courts can decide that.

When these precious babies move in, they don’t just take up space–they fill a void you didn’t know you had in your heart and they camp out there.

The reality, unfortunately, is that their story is not unique.

The needs are great, but fostering children is not to be entered into lightly.

As you can imagine, the insecurity and uncertainty that fills their young minds will sometimes cause them to be reserved or distant or angry.  Their little minds can’t always grasp what has happened to them and why. These sweet little souls just need someone to willing to show them that someone does care about them.  Someone who will nurture them and love them and help them to overcome the emotional consequences of their physical circumstances.

To give them hope.

This journey is just beginning for our family…  because their parents’ rights were terminated, they were able to move forward with adoption, and on National Adoption Day 2017, we welcomed two more Muntons to our family!  (I was happy to use my Cricut to make them matching shirts for their special day!)

There is so much more to this story than I could ever tell.  This experience has compelled another of our adult children to foster a baby that they received straight from the hospital.  We are so grateful to God for His hand in this process, and wanted to share just a small part of our story in hopes that others will be made aware of the need and consider making a difference in the life of a child….

“Pure and undefiled religion before God the Father is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself unstained from the world.” James 1:27

If you want to know more, just check out the website for your area.  There are many ways to get involved even if you are not in a position to foster or adopt.  In Illinois, the website is: Illinois.gov/dcfs

Together We Rise is a great organization that helps provide “thousands of foster youth across the country with new bicycles, college supplies, and suitcases so that children do not have to travel from home to home with their belongings in a trash bag.”  [Visit their website, togetherwerise.org to join them in making a difference.]

  17 comments for “This Is Love: An Adoption Story

  1. July 30, 2018 at 11:16 pm

    Amen-Amein Sister in Christ-Messiah Jesus-Yeshua Vickie!! Thanks so much for Adopting your Family!!

    May Our ONE TRUE GOD the HEAVENLY FATHER Bless All my Sisters and Brothers in Christ-Messiah Jesus-Yeshua and Your Families and Friends!!

    Love ❤ Always and Shalom ( Peace ), YSIC \o/

    Kristi Ann

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  2. Mae
    April 12, 2018 at 11:32 pm

    So good to read this story! It truly is hard work and they obviously have a big heart with lots of love to give!

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  3. February 20, 2018 at 1:58 pm

    Such a sweet story! So glad I came across it today! Congratulations to you and your family!! Precious……

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  4. katiedeckert
    February 16, 2018 at 2:02 pm

    Brings tears to my eyes!! Love this story so much! Congratulations!

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  5. February 16, 2018 at 4:20 am

    I love this! I’m not able to have a baby so I want to adopt. I have been thinking of fostering but my husband and I have to pray about it. Thank you for sharing this!

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    • February 20, 2018 at 2:15 pm

      Sara, I am SO THANKFUL! You are the reason i felt compelled to share our story. I just knew that there are others out there that, when aware of the need, would be moved to action. ❤

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      • February 20, 2018 at 4:48 pm

        Absolutely! I’m glad you opened your heart & shared your story.

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  6. RebeccaLynn
    February 14, 2018 at 5:00 pm

    Wow! What a beautiful, inspiring, and hope-filled story of what love TRULY means — love in action, for the glory of God’s kingdom. Praise God! I will keep you all in prayer.

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    • February 20, 2018 at 2:12 pm

      Thank you, Rebecca! ❤ We are always grateful for prayer support!

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  7. February 14, 2018 at 5:12 am

    Absolutely beautiful post! You are right on – foster care and adoption are both beautiful and hard! Praying for your family as y’all continue this journey of healing with your precious grandbabies!

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    • February 20, 2018 at 2:11 pm

      Thank you Naomi! This is a beautiful journey, and prayer is crucial!

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  8. February 13, 2018 at 7:41 pm

    I was a foster mom for a few years, as well as an adopted mom of two, my son is now in college and got him at age two, my youngest daughter is twelve and we got her at one, they both have been a blessing to us. I always said if everyone adopted one child perhaps we will not have any children in foster care waiting to be adopted

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  9. Laura Baer
    February 13, 2018 at 9:55 am

    I am so happy for your family. I taught Kyrie in Sunday School last year and was glad and thankful to see the adoption post on FB. Our foster son has been with us for over three years and we are still waiting for our “forever together “. Foster care definitely is a roller coaster of emotions! But I would do it again to have this time with our little guy! Thank you for your post!

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    • February 17, 2018 at 11:53 am

      Thank you for your sweet words, Laura! ❤ Love your family and praying for you to become that forever family!

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