You know–the one you can’t get it out of your head–and yet, you don’t really want to.
“You’re a Good, Good Father, it’s Who You are…”
“…And I’m loved by You, it’s who I am.” [Chris Tomlin]
Being a parent is the hardest, most rewarding job in the world, and the truth is,
We all fail. We fall down. We mess up. We make mistakes.
Yet, they still love us and want our approval.
We feel inadequate and overwhelmed.
Yet, the love that we have for our children is
and sometimes undeserving–trumps it all.
Yes, my father is a good one. He was from a generation of really hard-working men. He would work 2-3 jobs to provide for his family and never let us go without. He taught us the principles of hard work and discipline and consistency. And we knew he loved us, even if he didn’t say it often. He could be tight and generous at the same time. Economics demanded that he save and prepare for the unknown future, but out of love for us, he freely gave us everything we needed and more.
Fathers are judged unfairly because they are often expected to be maternal, when in reality they are created to be the provider and leader of their homes, not the coddling, “if mama ain’t happy, then nobody’s happy”, tip-toeing around the house, afraid of upsetting the tribe, purring kitty cat that just needs petted and fed once in a while.
Unlike previous generations, men of this generation often have their authority questioned; and their God-given mandate to lead is perceived as a negative personality trait. The women’s movement tried to take the word, “male” and turn it into a curse word.
“So God created man in His own image; He created him in the image of God; He created them male and female.” Genesis 1:27
Then He blessed them and gave them each their own responsibilities. Responsibilities that were specific to their gender. Women had babies. Men provided. As a result of the fall, both were given hard labor–ours in childbirth, theirs in working to provide for their families.
God in heaven calls Himself “Father” for a reason. He is the only perfect Father, and He demonstrates for us the kind of Good, Good Father our men should be:
Compassionate and Loving–With a heart willing to love and to listen.
“The eyes of the Lord are on the righteous, and His ears are open to their cry for help.” Psalm 34:15
Leading–Firm in convictions and a model of integrity. Leading by example.
“I will instruct you and show you the way to go; with My eye on you, I will give counsel.” Psalm 32:8
Providing–desiring so much more than material provision–but pursuing a personal, loving relationship that provides a safe haven.
“Taste and see that the Lord is good. How happy is the man who takes refuge in Him! Fear the Lord, you His saints, for those who fear Him lack nothing. Young lions lack food and go hungry, but those who seek the Lord will not lack any good thing.” Psalm 34:8-10
God the Father is “perfect in all of His ways to us”, even if the father you have in this world is not. They could never fill those shoes–and they shouldn’t be required to. Comparing the two only brings frustration. Our earthly fathers were never intended to replace a relationship with God the Father. He serves as an example, and only He can “know just what we need before we say a word”.
If possible, hug your Father today. Or at least call him.
Either way, make time to thank your Heavenly Father for your earthly one.
I know am going to–
Love you, Dad!